I find that very often the term love is degraded. An example of this would be a person who says they are in love with someone they don’t really know. If you do not genuinely know and appreciate who you love, then you are not actually in love because you do not know the person you are claiming to love and you can not appreciate what you do not know..
One person is just as complex as the next and there is much to know about each and every one of us. There is so much to appreciate. It’s just a shame sometimes how shallow people can be when it comes to relationships when there is so much depth involved. It’s much more than how “great” someone may look or appear to you at first.
We must all look forward and imagine how life with these people will turn out. A person needs to know their self; know what he or she wants, before finding a long term love. It is what we should all search for. Not some temporary infatuation or lust. True love is everlasting.
Another example would be a person who degrades love by abusing the one he or she claims to love and then continues to claim it again there after the constant abuse. Abuse is not love. If you decide to belittle the one you’re with, then you are deciding not to love a person who may love you. You are deteriorating a person’s soul and causing the person pain.
Manipulation is not love. Violence is not love. Bullying is not love. Mind-games are not love. Love requires care and empathy. If care and empathy are not present in your actions towards people you claim to love, then you are not actually loving. You are only claiming to love. All the while spreading that nonsense through the minds of others and ruining the name of love..