Logan On Love

“The three greatest gifts are life, love, and understanding. I believe life is attaining these, love is giving it to someone, and true love is learning how to give these away.”

Have you ever had a friend with benefits ? And if so, what did you benefit?

Being and having a friend with benefits entails having a “friend” or person that you would have there to use or “fuck” in some way.

You are both mutually there for each other for your own convenience.  You are free and easy for each other and possibly for other people as well, depending on the kind of rules you have set up for each other.

I am here to tell you that I think deep feelings will never come or evolve from this friends with benefits. Humans were not made to be used up. They were made to feel and actually be appreciated for all and everything they are. They were made to be given things and gifts without having to reciprocate, just because they are so great. Just because they deserve it. All humans are either capable of having deep insight or most of us already do. Humans are so much more than attention feeders or banks. We all have deep souls. We are all so complex.

Throughout my life, I have been used for many things. I am fully aware when I am being used or manipulated. I have had to watch many people use each other over and over. I have seen them only submerge their lives in desperation and hopelessness. People want to feel good. People want to be touched, people want to be felt. All or most of us crave this. Because we want to feel like we are loved and most or all of us connect romantic love with sex. Because righteously and  instinctively you have sex with someone that you want to love you. When people are having casual sex and are longing for this attention, I believe that their hearts are depleted by other means. Through my personal experiences and empathy, I really do believe this with all of my heart.

Some of us don’t know what we are missing. Some of us don’t know what we need. Maybe your soul needs to be loved. Internally, eternally, and physically loved. Sex is not love. Sex enhances love. People love other people all the time without having sex. People don’t need to be giving their bodies away to people who aren’t going to care about the body being given. Because we are so unique and miraculous, there has to be someone out there that was made just for you in a perfect way. I have seen people in love, I have found what love is through my study and my life. In my opinion, we are all made for one person, biologically and spiritually. True romantic love is out there.

So. Who benefits? What did one gain?

For a little while, it would seem that you felt adored or thought of. You feel partial sensation of love, but not all of what it could be.

I compare friends with benefits to a long drawn out one night stand. You lose promise in yourself and the other person. You weaken and limit the possibility of finding someone you would actually be in love with, the one you were meant to find. And you are wasting away possible love you could be sharing and offering someone else. Someone who would love the love you have in yourself to give.

And it’s amazing how we find ourselves falling
It’s funny how you can meet someone and know right away
In someway they’ll be in your future.
That’s how I felt about you,
You’re unlike anyone else.
You made me smile when I felt like crying
You listened to me when I didn’t have anyone else.
It seems like you knew all the right words to say
You knew what I liked
What I was looking for.
I think you’re different from the rest.
And I’m hoping,
Please,
Just this once
Let me be right.

Two people from completely different “worlds”..

Can they fall in love?

I have been examining the opposition in attraction and falling in love for the longest time. People fall in love with people for many different reasons, no matter how different their lives are. I have fallen for men that were nothing like myself, morally, physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, hopelessly..

When you fall for someone who is nothing like you, it might be challenging in the success of your relationship together. The two of you may have nothing to talk about, you may be 4 feet, the one your with may be 7 feet. If and when you start talking beliefs with your lover, you may believe in God, your lover may feel that he or she doesn’t need God. Vice versa as well. You may love football, and your lover may die from the boredom of which. -laughs- Like I would. You may be enthusiastic, and your lover might be melancholic.

But whatever the difference, depending on how important football is to you, or God, or height, or emotions, or anything that may be important to you.. There is a way for it to work. And the key to making it work is dependent upon how much you are willing to sacrifice the relation and understanding between the two of you.

For an example, let’s say that if you love and believe in God and you’re lover doesn’t. Imagine the personality difference there. You believe in the divine afterlife, but your lover does not. One who doesn’t believe in a God, may think you’re either out of your mind, or brainwashed, or scared, or whatever they want to think of you. They may not even care if you believe, but why don’t they believe? Probably because the idea of a God is absurd to he or she; fathomless. Why is it absurd or fathomless to he or she? For their own personal reasons, the same opposing reasons why you would believe..

The best way to go about falling in love with someone is getting to know him or her first. Finding out what is important to you and finding out how valuable those things, those beliefs, those personality traits, those physical traits, those activities are to you..

I believe in Christ, but I have never fallen in love with someone who believed in Him as well. Never. And I wasn’t the one who wanted it over, they were. I never judged them, it’s not and will never be my right to judge the one I love. All I knew was that I loved them and that’s all that mattered. True love perseveres and I persevered. In my past situations, the people I was in love with did not want to be with a woman who believed in Christ. And Christ is a part of me. They did not want to be with me. In my past situations, they did not want monogamy, they were extremely bored with me sexually. I was no fun to them in any sense. I could not have been more uninteresting to them. They never gave a damn about what I loved and appreciated. They wanted me to sit down and watch that game on TV with them, a game that has no meaning to me whatsoever. A game that is minuscule compared to so many other things in life. They wanted me to change and that was never ever going to happen and they should not have expected me to. They wanted me to render my morals forgotten and I would not forget. And even though I couldn’t enjoy the game, I always enjoyed loving the one I loved. Even though I turned out being what they didn’t have a taste for, that fact will never change how in love I was.

You want to be with someone who thinks your fun, someone who doesn’t think you’re out of your mind, someone who loves every single thing about you, someone who will love you for all that you are, someone who compliments you, not someone who belittles you in the way you think and feel, someone who really understands you..

No one really feels the force of love
They don’t desire the push because
Love is sand sweat and tears
And the sounds of the sea that no one hears

Everyone hears the screaming cry of love
They chase the sound of it because
Love is art, sex, and God
And the fuel to the fire in our every thought

The thinking that counts is possible with love
Strange to say it’s not enough because
Love is not money, gifts, or swoon
Or the sugar cube in your silver spoon

You taste the bitter salt of love
I hunger for it’s smiting kiss because
Love is a work of beauty in my life
And me content with being it’s sigh

I wanted to share my love I have for my husband. He means more than anything in the world to me. We got married June 18th, 2011. And fell in love September 28,2009.

I have never felt so complete in my life! We fit together like a puzzle. We recently bought our very own home, were building all our new memories. Words really can’t describe how I feel about him. He has my whole heart, and I really couldn’t see myself without him. Before him it was like I was in a dream, and now its like I woke up and everything’s real like love really does exist!
I’m grateful I found him, and I’m so honored to be his wife!

This flower is more than just a weed, it has meaning, beauty, and purpose.

Here is of list of flowers along with their meanings:

• Acacia – Secret love
• Buttercup – Cheer
• Pink camellia – Longing for you
• Red carnation – My heart aches for you
• Striped carnation – I can’t
• Coriander – Lust
• Daffodil – Respect
• Dandelion - A wish come true
• Forget-me-not – True love
• Forsythia – Anticipation
• Gladiola – Love at first sight
• Hibiscus – Delicate beauty
• Purple hyacinth – Please forgive me
• Iris – Hope and faith
• Jonquil – Love me
• Lavender – Devotion
• White lily – Purity
• Tiger lily- Wealth
• Lime blossom – Conjugal love
• Marigold – Comfort (or it’s opposite, pain)
• Mistletoe – Kiss me
• Oleander – Caution
• Orchid – Refined beauty
• Red poppy – Pleasure
• Tea rose – I’ll always remember
• Snowdrop – Hope
• Sunflower – Loyalty
• Yellow tulip – Hopeless love
• Blue violet – I’ll be true
• Wilted flowers – Our love is doomed